Isolation….It’s one way I cope with things when I am emotionally hurting. Talking to others, rationalizing things, discussing my feelings and asking for help are simply things I am not good with. The problem with isolation during the grieving process is that it will allow you to seep deeper into depression. Isolating yourself causes you to disconnect with all those who long to actually want to be there for you.
Many choose to isolate themselves because they are dealing with a personal battle within themselves over the loss of a close friend or realative and it makes them feel alone or abandoned. Forgetting that God is right there with us. We forget that not only is God right there with us but that God has also placed others in our lives to help us along the way as well. We sometimes forget that in the moment of grief that we need to be willing to allow ourselves to show our emotions and share our feelings.
Things to Help Through the Lonely Times During Isolation:
- Find a balance: It’s OK to be alone. However, it is also important to be surrounded by those who love you. So, yes we have to have alone time but also be willing to cling to those closetest to us.
- Remember things will change including relationships: Everything is going to change. You may discover new friends as you begin to heal. You may find that there will also be a shift in pre-existing friendships. After all, they too may be on a grieving journey on their own.
- Though the dynamics may change strive to maintain old friendships: Check in with them every so often. Yes, you are grieving but so are they and in the end, you both need each other.
- Dare to make new friends: As your developing your new normal changes the ability to make new friends will present themselves. By all means, persue it! Dare to open yourself up.
How am I doing?
This season of grieving is different for me this time around because I am not alone. I have two other friends walking through it with me. However, this time I will say I am staying balanced. Having my husband, children, and friends to walk with me has helped more than they will ever know to keep me from allowing myself to fall into old patterns.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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